Yes, it is hard to be sweet. Especially when those around you are angry, frustrated, over-worked and stressed out. It is amazing what kindness can do. Sometimes it comes simply in the form of just being sweet. When someone gives you vinegar, give them back some honey. Then you can mix them together and make a vinaigrette and you have a lovely salad dressing for your healthy salad.
Ok that was corny, as my husband would say. He throws that at me constantly, "You are the queen of corn" then says "but I love you."
I remember one time when my daughter was 8, we waited in a very long, after christmas, return line at Costco. She said to me:
"Mom, that lady looks mad." (the teller)
I said to her "Well cutie, I am sure that with everyone bringing stuff back and the long lines she is on her feet lots and having to deal with grumpy people because they are mad that they have to wait."
Like somehow they are surprised that there is a huge return line up after Christmas? I don't get that.
I told her "I bet you if you are nice to her, even though she is grumpy, you will make her smile." She says to me "Well how do I do that mom!" I said "when you get close to her, take a good look at her and find something nice to say about her, something genuine. Maybe she has nice earrings or pretty eyes. It doesn't have to be something stunning, ("Whats that mom?"-"Really really awesome". "OH, ok.") just her best thing." She says "k Mom."
We get to the counter and I am trying to be pretty sweet too, though I can feel her negative energy as thick as heavy fog. It is hard to be near that and keep your wits about you. My daughter peering over the counter at her, I can see her eyes searching, thinking about the teller's "best thing".
Out from her lips comes "I think you have really pretty hair!" with a big smile on her face like she just dropped a diamond on the counter.
The woman's face transformed. A huge grin spreading from ear to ear, seriously her whole face lifted. Truthfully I could swear she was blushing a bit. "Well thank you!" she exclaimed. Her shoulders lifted she bounced around doing our return. We were all smiling.
We leave her, and my daughter looks at me and says "Wow mom! You were right."
I told her "you were being real, you said something you really felt and she felt that. You can always find something nice to say about someone, if you look really hard. It just takes you caring enough to do it. We are like drops in a puddle and you can either send out good ripples or bad ripples but either way your ripples will go out and and they will hit something."
Try your best to make them good ones, and to